Nov 03 2011

What NOT To Say 101

Published by at 4:21 pm under Relationship Snark

So, the boy and I had a discussion of sorts last night about why things aren’t working lately.  We have (kinda) sorted things out, but in the public interest, I’ve decided to let you all know some really dumb things that you just shouldn’t say (which I always thought were kinda self evidently stupid, but apparently not)

 

Me:  “You don’t listen to me"

Him: “You need to learn to deal with your problems differently instead of complaining to me about them”

(Because I’m no longer allowed to vent if I have a bad day.  This was followed with “Find someone else to talk to”.  Yeah, I could probably complain a little less.  However, things have been super stressful right now, and I have no one else to talk to about it.  Gah!)

 

Me: You don’t appear to even care about me.  I don’t think there’s even anything you like about me

Him: There’s plenty of things I like about you.  You can cook, you can clean, you have a job…

(Oh yeah.  He said that.  In all seriousness.  And didn’t even add anything else.)

 

Me: When was the last time we spent time together?

Both of us:… *silence*

 

5 minutes later…

 

Him: Oh, and I’ll be having dinner with the boys tomorrow night.

 

So after we both worked out a major issue is we don’t talk or spend time together anymore, he tells me he’s not even going to bother being home the next night. Right.

 

He’s not usually a total asshole.  But my goodness, he did not do well last night.  He did not do well at all!

3 responses so far

  • Anonymous

    Oh hey, the “you can cook and clean and have a job” is about all the EX (UNEMPLOYED) boyfriend said to me when we had a talk in August re: why I felt unappreciated.

  • http://www.snarksandladders.com Angela

    Yeeeeeah… that really pissed me off.  The scary thing is, he still doesn’t get why. 

  • Guest

    In fairness, he may have already had plans. The correct thing for him to do was to suggest another time say, the next day, to do something.

    My opinion though? Get out. You are not happy and he is not appreciative to you. You deserve to be happy.

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